As a mum of three, there is always the worry that someone will be left out. That one child won’t be part of the game, understand the joke or know the secrets. For the most part this isn’t something that happens in our house. For the most part they are a team. They play together. They laugh together. They love together.
This month, for the first time, I’ve been more aware of the big two choosing to play games that they don’t want Amy to play, of them not wanting Amy to come in their rooms and “mess things up”. Whether this is more evident because it’s actually happening more or often or if it’s just that she’s wanting to join in more than she has before so it feels more obvious I’m not honestly sure. I’m not overly concerned about it, I know things will come good again and it’s not a constant state, just happening more at the moment than it usually does.
We are lucky that, being so close in age, they do mostly like to do the same things. They don’t argue too much over the TV (though obviously Ben would rather be watching CBBC than Cbeebies these days) and they enjoy the same sort of things when we we go on an adventure. Their needs are fairly similar. They argue and bicker like most siblings do I’m sure but it’s not their default setting. Their default setting is one of love and laughter.
I can’t tell you how hard it was to get my Siblings photos this month – We’ve spent a lot of time indoors over the last few weeks and I purposely left them till the last minute knowing that it should be easy to get some photos at half term, especially as we’d be out and the weather should be ok. What is it they say about best laid plans?
Gorgeous lighting, gorgeous setting and one small hangry child who really didn’t want to have her photo taken thanks very much.
“Right ok Amy, lunch then photos?”
“Yep Mummy, I’m just sad. We can do photos after lunch.”
Thanks to a bit of a feast at Jamie’s Italian (kids eat free in half term whoop!) Amy was in a much better mood when we tried again but still didn’t really want to comply! She was full of beans (or perhaps sugar) and just wanted to chase around in pretty much the opposite direction to Ben and Chloe who were trying their best to just get the photos done. Anyway, thanks to Ben we finally managed to get them all in the same place and I think this set of photos says it all – Chloe with her “Quick, just get the shot” face and Amy giggling away at all the fuss she’s caused . . .
Only the other month did I say they were getting really good at cracking on and having their photo taken . . . never again will I utter those words!