Our Pup x

We have known for about a month now that our much loved pup Thomas, was terminally ill with lymphoma.  The vet had told us we could give him a six month course of chemotherapy which may extend his life by up to a year.  Dave and I took the decision not to put our boy through that.  As my friend Jane said, far better for him to go out in blaze of glory than for us to watch him steadily deteriorate over the course of a year.

And go out in a blaze of glory he did.

Chloe and Thomas

He never lost his bounce.  His whacky tail never stopped wagging.  But he was losing weight fast and whilst I don’t think he was in any pain, he was finding life exhausting.  Last Saturday we took him to the park with my Mum’s dog, Tilly.  He ran around that park with her like a puppy, bumping and bashing into her in the way that only boxers seem to do.  He was having the time of his life.  But it wore him out.  It took him the whole of the following day to fully recover.



Family walking two boxers

On Wednesday night we decided not to wait for him to become more poorly.  We decided to let him go while he was still Thomas.  It was the hardest decision we’ve ever made and one which really made me not want to be an adult.  We both knew that we were doing the right thing by him, but deciding the exact moment to end his life was hard.  So hard.

Yesterday afternoon, after talking him for a last walk around the park (where he bounded around like a spring chicken and could have almost had us fooled that he was really fine) we said goodbye.

Thomas was only seven and we’re all gutted.  The kids are devastated, they’ve never known life without him and I don’t think I’ve cried like this in years.

Burgess family in Heaton Park with Thomas



  1. November 4, 2016 / 10:03 am

    Oh Colette, I am so sorry. I really am. You made the right decision for Thomas and for you, but it’s not an easy one at all. Thinking of you all, wish I was there to give you a hug. xx

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:52 pm

      Thanks Kate x

  2. November 4, 2016 / 10:18 am

    I’m in bits for you Colette. They’re never “just” dogs, they’re a huge and vital part of your family. Sending you all love and hugs, he did indeed go out in a tail wagging blaze of glory xxx

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:50 pm

      Your words really stuck with me Jane and helped so much when it came to make the final decision. I can’t thank you enough x

      • November 4, 2016 / 3:12 pm

        It’s the hardest decision in the world, but you did your very best by him. if he could have thanked you, he probably would have done xxx

  3. November 4, 2016 / 10:23 am

    I’m so so sorry Colette, he was a huge part of your family and will always be remembered.

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:47 pm

      He really will Jen. Thank you x

  4. Karen
    November 4, 2016 / 10:26 am

    I’m so sorry Colette for all of you xx

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:46 pm

      Thanks Karen x

  5. November 4, 2016 / 10:48 am

    Oh Colette. I’m so sorry. Our pets make their own huge places in our families and our hearts. Thinking of you all xx

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:39 pm

      Thank you Pippa, it’s been such a tough month and I appreciate your thoughts x

  6. November 4, 2016 / 11:01 am

    I’m so sorry to hear this. I dread the day we lose our dog, they become such an important part of the family, don’t they? Ours will always be my first baby! Know that you made the horrible but most loving decision to prevent him from suffering. Sending lots of love to you and your family xx

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:39 pm

      Thanks so much for your lovely comment. I’m glad that we chose not to treat him and prolong his suffering in the end x

  7. November 4, 2016 / 11:13 am

    Oh, oh Colette. I am so sorry for the loss of your sweet boy. xx

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:36 pm

      Thank you lovely, he really was an absolute beaut of a pup x

  8. November 4, 2016 / 11:16 am

    oh so sorry, my boxer, Jackson is 6 and much part of the family – such happy lovely dogs – you did best for your pup, although I know that doesn’t make it any easier for you xxx

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:36 pm

      They’re such a fantastic breed aren’t they. I’d never have anything other than a boxer. x x x

  9. November 4, 2016 / 11:24 am

    Oh Colette that is so sad. They are part of the family and I am so sorry for you. I am not looking forward to when we have to say goodbye to our dog. Big hugs and lots of love xxx

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:35 pm

      It was so hard. We thought we’d have years left with him x

  10. Mummy3plus1dog
    November 4, 2016 / 11:48 am

    Oh Hun I’m so sorry for your loss ? Big hugs to all of you

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:34 pm

      Thanks so much Vicky x

  11. November 4, 2016 / 12:22 pm

    Oh hunny. I’m so sorry.

    You’ve made the right decision but it is so hard.
    X lots of love

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:34 pm

      Thanks Clare x

  12. Fiona jk42
    November 4, 2016 / 12:40 pm

    So sorry to hear this. It’s never easy to take the decision to euthanise a beloved pet and member of the family, but as his “mummy” you did what was best for him.

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:33 pm

      It was such a hard thing to have control of, but I know we did what was right x

  13. November 4, 2016 / 1:18 pm

    So sorry to read this. Our Harry had lymphoma and we had to make that same difficult decision last summer, so I know what you’re going through. Sending love x

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:32 pm

      Thanks lovely. It was such a blow to find out he was so poorly but I know we did the right thing in not treating him x

  14. November 4, 2016 / 1:43 pm

    Oh gosh, feeling your pain. We lost one of our cats earlier this year, and we’d only had him a year, but he was definitely a family member, and until yesterday I hadn’t cried about anything else so much for years. Half of the pain is having to see your children go through the pain, but they are so much more resilient than we expect and thankfully they can generally move on quicker (yes, a new kitten has been requested here…). Sending hugs xx

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:31 pm

      It really has hit my far harder than I expected Steph, I’ve cried so much since we made the decision on Tuesday night. I completely agree, I was so worried about telling them. Chloe was particularly devastated and sobbed her heart out, before asking if we would be getting a new dog. I guess in a practical sense they just see there is a gap to be filled x

  15. Angela Holmes
    November 4, 2016 / 1:57 pm

    We will never forget Whacky Tail – sadly gone too early but his memories will forever be in your hearts, and ours ?

    • Colette
      November 4, 2016 / 2:30 pm

      That bloody tail – we’ve all had some whips off that in the past! Bless him x

  16. November 4, 2016 / 2:31 pm

    I am just so so sorry, such sad news who made his life the best it could be that is clear xxxxxx

  17. November 4, 2016 / 3:04 pm

    I’m so sorry Colette. I know how much dogs are a part of the family and I can’t imagine how horrid it must be for you to have to help the kids through this. It’s inevitable that we will outlive our dogs, but you don’t expect to have to say goodbye at 7. Thinking of you a lot today, as I have been for the last few weeks xxx

  18. November 4, 2016 / 3:57 pm

    Oh Colette I am so so sorry. Dogs are like little humans and are a huge part of family life. Big hugs for all of you xxxxxx

  19. Liz Burton
    November 4, 2016 / 8:01 pm

    I’m so sorry Collette. We lost our dog to Leukemia last year and having her put to sleep was the hardest thing I’ve ever done. You will feel sad for some time to come, but you know you did the right thing for your doggie. Sending you much love x

  20. November 4, 2016 / 9:24 pm

    Sending love and hugs! I am so sorry!
    You made the best decision xxx

  21. November 4, 2016 / 9:47 pm

    Oh I am so so sorry for you all, he was one of your babies and I am sending you all the love in the world. Such a sad day for you all. What a beautiful woofer boy xxx

  22. November 4, 2016 / 10:39 pm

    Oh Colette, I’m so sad for you all. I loved looking at the pics of your bonkers dog – You could always tell how much love the whole family had for him. Hoping the pain is easing for you all x

  23. November 4, 2016 / 10:44 pm

    I had to read this again to comment. I just couldn’t do it earlier. I love that you took him for one last run in the park. Love you all, it’s just so sad x

  24. November 6, 2016 / 11:01 pm

    Awwh that is so sad. Our dog just suddenly went downhill & we didn’t have any extra time with her but she had a long and happy life. They are such a big part of the family and it’s a real bereavement. I found you via BHEO on Facebook.

  25. Hannah - smeethsaysfashion
    November 8, 2016 / 12:29 pm

    Thinking of you all Colette, letting go of a fur baby is one of life’s hardest decisions. x


  26. November 8, 2016 / 4:28 pm

    It’s the kindest thing you could have ever done for him, it’s so hard as they really are a huge part of the family. I’m so sorry for your loss.

    It get’s easier with time, but I still go to say ‘I’ll let the dog out’ and then remember we don’t have a dog anymore.

    Big hugs xx

    • Colette
      November 8, 2016 / 10:18 pm

      Thanks Emma,
      I remember how hard you found it when you lost your own dog. At the minute I’m missing him being under my feet when I’m trying to get jobs done or him greeting us at the door and getting in Amy’s face when we come home. I told Chloe to put her breakfast down for him the other day and Dave almost bought dog treats for him in the supermarket. It will take time I guess x

  27. November 8, 2016 / 4:58 pm

    I’m so sorry to hear your news. Its hard to say goodbye to a pet, I’ve been there myself with our cat who was 16. You’ve done the right thing and lots of love to all of you xx

    • Colette
      November 8, 2016 / 10:17 pm

      Thanks Steph, it was a really tough decision but I know we did the right thing for him x

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