Have I told you lately that I love you?

I remember many years ago, before Dave and I moved in together, my friend Lex telling me that once we lived together we just wouldn’t send each other lovely text messages any more, they’d all be practical and boring.  Of course I didn’t believe her.  What a depressing thought, how could it possibly be true?  Dave & I sent each other messages all day long telling each other how much we loved each other or that we couldn’t wait to see each other at the weekend, to make big plans for our future or just to chat about inane rubbish and make each other smile.

It doesn’t take a genius though to realise that Lex was right – our declarations of love soon turned to messages about bills, milk and what time my train home was due in.  It didn’t mean we loved each other any less, it just meant things were different now – we had practical stuff to deal with and it wasn’t as necessary to send messages detailing how much we missed each other when we’d be in each other’s arms in bed every night.

More than a decade down the line and we rarely send each other those messages which make your heart skip a beat with excitement or raise a warm glow.  Is it that there is no need or just that it doesn’t occur to us to do so?

Maybe I should text him now & tell him how much I love his ginger face.

Have I told you lately that I love you - me and Dave

(As an aside, in writing this post I’ve also discovered that Dave & I never have our photo taken, just the two of us – so that’s something to try and rectify this year!)

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23 Comments

  1. January 23, 2017 / 9:29 am

    It’s funny how things change when you move in together or get married. I must admit my husband does still text me ‘love you’ s couple of times a day

  2. Lynne Harper
    January 23, 2017 / 10:20 am

    My husband and I still send love you messages everyday, we have just always added it on the end of a message so it comes as natural to us now. Its so lovely seeing it and still now makes me smile. Just try it and you will get back in that flow 🙂 x

    • Colette
      Author
      January 23, 2017 / 1:06 pm

      It’s not so much the “love yous” on the end of a message that’s missing but more the message that’s sent with the specific purpose of letting them know you’re thinking of them etc.

  3. January 23, 2017 / 12:09 pm

    Ah, definitely text him and tell him that you love his ginger face. 7 years into our relationship and I still get cute text’s from my hubby. Jo x

    • Colette
      Author
      January 23, 2017 / 1:00 pm

      We tell each other all the time in person, but rarely in thoughtful little messages any more. I definitely need to do it more! We’ve been together for the best part of fifteen years now x

  4. January 23, 2017 / 2:51 pm

    The ginger face at the end made me smile. I think ten years down the line you just don’t need the text messages, you know that you love each other and as long as you show it then it can go unsaid x

  5. January 23, 2017 / 3:19 pm

    It must be strange how much things change when you live together and as you said things become more practical, but it means the times when you do say things like that they mean even more x

  6. Donna
    January 23, 2017 / 3:23 pm

    Very lovely read! I was writing a similiar thing last week funnily enough! You two are very cute ?

    • Colette
      Author
      January 23, 2017 / 8:36 pm

      I sent him the link to this post and he sent me a very lovely message back <3 x

  7. January 23, 2017 / 9:31 pm

    Interesting post! My boyfriend and I don’t live together but we also never send sentimental texts… I wonder what would happen if we moved in together… (Aside from me killing him for being so messy haha!)
    I do agree that it’s still important to make the effort to show your partner how much they mean to you, though 🙂

  8. January 24, 2017 / 8:33 am

    What a lovely read! I’m not sure that we have ever really sent romantic messages but it’s just not our style. the fact we have stayed together over 16 years must count for something though!

  9. January 24, 2017 / 10:47 am

    I’ve found personally since moving in with my boyfriend the lovey dovey messages stop because I got to say it all to him in real life now rather than waiting days to see him and having to survive via text until then!

  10. January 24, 2017 / 12:22 pm

    This is so adorable and I think a lot of people forget about this kind of thing.

  11. January 24, 2017 / 8:37 pm

    I’ve been with my other half for 23 years now and we still send each other messages and make sure we tell each other ‘I love you’ every single day. Soppy I know, but we do.

  12. January 25, 2017 / 11:08 am

    My husband owns a phone because I insist that he does. I keep it charged and in credit and make sure he takes it with him when he goes out. He just about knows how to make a call and answer one. Texting is completely beyond him so those lovey-dovey messages never happen. But actions speak louder than words and he shows me everyday how much he still loves me by the things he does rather than what he says.

  13. January 25, 2017 / 3:17 pm

    When the routine of the every day takes over, it’s hard to be romantic sometimes, but it’s good to keep the good vibes and the love going 🙂

  14. January 26, 2017 / 5:34 pm

    Aww this really pulled on my heart strings!

  15. January 27, 2017 / 6:54 am

    We used to do love you messages all the time but think we just get so caught up in being busy these days. Definitely need to do it more!

  16. January 28, 2017 / 6:43 pm

    I don’t think it means you love each other any less when this happens, I just think you love each other more – and are comfortable in that feeling. It is hard to ‘miss’ each other when you live together I guess. This is a lovely message for your hubby x

  17. February 2, 2017 / 10:55 pm

    What a wonderful post and photo. I have so few photos of us too. I think you just love each other so much it’s comfortable. This is lovely x

  18. February 24, 2017 / 5:51 pm

    We don’t send those texts often now either, the sentiment is lost anyway because we both assume the other wants something: “what do you want…what have you bought?” haha! We’re the same though, we don’t go anywhere or do anything to warrant a photo opportunity really! But I am trying to change that also! (we’ll see how well that goes haha.) Lovely post 🙂 x

    • Colette
      Author
      February 26, 2017 / 9:35 pm

      Thank you x x x

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