Body image and what we teach our daughters

As you’re making your new year’s resolutions to lose weight, get fit, dress better I’d like you to read this: When Your Mother Says She’s Fat. Read it. Remember it.
 
This post really struck a chord with me and is exactly why Chloe will never hear me complain about my baby weight or bits of my body I’m less than thrilled with. It won’t stop me thinking these things but I won’t be sharing them with my baby girl!
 
 
I tell Chloe almost every day that’s she’s gorgeous.  We have a little routine when I brush her hair and I say “Let me see you” and she replies “Gorgeous” – because I tell her she is, all the time.  I don’t want my little girl to grow up worrying about the way she looks (although I know she will and this, to a point, is unavoidable).  I’m not saying I don’t want to her to care about her appearance as for someone who loves fabulous shoes and make up as much as me that would be pretty hypocritical – I just don’t want her to be a slave to the scales, to obsess about food and to spend her whole life on a diet or looking in a mirror while life passes her by.

So in 2014 I will be working hard to get back to my “Wedding Weight” but I will also be working hard on making sure my girls know how beautiful they are both inside and out.

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22 Comments

  1. January 1, 2014 / 1:00 pm

    I'm focusing on being a fit family not a skinny one 🙂

    • January 5, 2014 / 9:22 pm

      love your response Becky, Colette amazing post. Everyone should live by this. We should all be more worried about healthy and not skinny. Because skinny can be extremely risky and we all want to be around for as long as possible to blog every moment of our lives. lol

  2. January 1, 2014 / 1:25 pm

    Great post Colette, and I completely agree with you. I have a son and I make sure I never complain about my weight in front of him because I don't want him growing up thinking girls have to be skinny to be beautiful!
    We do talk about keeping fit in front of him with the focus on being healthy, not on weight gain/loss.

    • January 1, 2014 / 4:40 pm

      Its so important to get the balance right isn't it – we mould their future attitudes x

    • January 3, 2014 / 10:04 pm

      Really good point. I think we forget how much our children pick up on x

  3. January 3, 2014 / 10:04 pm

    Fit not thin dudes. Fit not thin. 🙂
    Brill post.

  4. January 3, 2014 / 10:53 pm

    Fab post, i'm sure you girls are growing up beautifully with a caring mummy teaching them the important thins already. xx

  5. January 3, 2014 / 11:24 pm

    I'm always trying to encourage my sister into a positive mental attitude when it comes to body types. As long as you're fit and healthy that's all that matters. Well done you for promoting a healthy image to your daughters x

  6. January 5, 2014 / 10:34 am

    Great post. Like you, I'm very conscious of giving the right message to my daughter. I tell her she's beautiful daily, and never complain about my appearance or weight in front of her. As you say, it's inevitable she'll care at some point, but I want to mitigate against it and let her enjoy being in her own skin rather than worrying about what others think.

  7. January 5, 2014 / 12:11 pm

    Our family will all be working together to improve our fitness this year, it's a lovely thing to do together x #ShareItSundays

  8. January 5, 2014 / 1:03 pm

    ahhhh… the wedding weight. #memories! I looked the best I ever did for my wedding day. After baby no 2 is here, I will be aspiring to get back there myself xx
    PS Following thanks to Oh So Amelia Linky, would really appreciate a follow back, if you really wouldn't mind 🙂 xx

    • January 5, 2014 / 8:54 pm

      If it helps my wedding weight was reached 8 months after giving birth to baby number 2 – I'm now starting all over again after baby number 3 lol

  9. January 5, 2014 / 2:28 pm

    What a lovely little ritual you have with your daughter. Good luck with getting back to your wedding weight! I've got a few stone to lose, but am hoping to do it while encouraging a more healthy attitude at home rather than a diet mindset as I've got an impressionable almost 12 year old

    • January 5, 2014 / 8:54 pm

      Good luck! I hate the word 'diet' – ir should be banished 🙂 x

  10. January 6, 2014 / 1:36 am

    You're right, Colete. That was a great article to read. Thank you for sharing.

  11. Amy Squires
    January 6, 2014 / 10:24 am

    Brillant post. Such an important message!

  12. Anonymous
    January 20, 2014 / 9:37 am

    Very sensible and considerate :- Thinking of your daughters future. Children do listen and can be influenced by what they hear and experience. So well done you, aiming to keep your daughters healthy in every aspect. As emotional wellbeing is important.

    Rachel Craig

  13. January 25, 2014 / 11:50 am

    I'm trying hard but it seems I'm conditioned to moan about my figure.

  14. sharon powell
    March 8, 2014 / 10:44 am

    Great post! My daughter is 13 and does have occasions where she moans about her body because they all do but she's never obsessed about what she eats and she enjoys doing sports at school because she knows they keep her fit, not because they help her lose weight! She also takes about 50 selfies a day and she openly admits she is gorgeous 🙂 x

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