Sharing bedroom with a 10 month old baby . . .

We moved Ben out into his own room just before he was 4 months old – we were all disturbing each other and he needed more room so it made sense to move him into his cot bed.  He slept so much better for it – as did we.
Ben’s first night in his big boy bed!
With Chloe we waited quite a bit longer – mainly as she was going to be sharing a room with Ben so we needed to make sure she was pretty much sleeping through and was unlikely to really disturb Ben.  I remember being really nervous about moving them in together – that they would keep each other awake or that he’d put things in her cot that shouldn’t be there.  In the end it actually worked really well – yes there were (and still are) times that they stopped each other going to sleep or woke each other too early but they’ve coped well and mostly they enjoy sharing a room.
Daytime snoozing in her cot

And Amy. Amy is now 10 months old but still sharing a room with us.  When we first found out we were expecting Amy the plan was that we’d put her in to share with Ben and Chloe at some point – bunk beds for them and the cotbed for Amy.  Plans have since changed and we’re having an extension built which will eventually give everyone their own room (this is beyond exciting!)

So whilst we’re waiting on Amy’s new bedroom being ready – and she’s still not sleeping through the night – there is little point in trying to put her in with Ben and Chloe only to move her again in a few months time.  It would feel rather like feeding her to the lions!

Sharing a bedroom with a 10 month old baby who doesn’t sleep through is hard.  We often disturb her as we go to bed no matter how quiet we are, she disturbs us me through the night.  Obviously we can’t read when we go to bed or talk and I find I get up to her much quicker than I would like to as she’s just there – she can hear me, smell me and see me.  It’s not so easy to ignore her having a little whinge when she’s right there next to me.  I am sure she’d settle herself again given half a chance but I’m awake and want to go back to sleep as quickly as possible so its easier to just jump up and feed her.  If she was in her own room I know I’d be able to leave her a bit longer to see if she could sort herself out before I went in.  She wakes up earlier than I would like and with the other two I used to just leave them till a more acceptable time – they would lie in bed chatting to themselves while I dozed.  With Amy I can’t really do that as she just stands up in bed looking at me and shouting “Hiya” – it’s a damn good job she’s so cute.

Big girl cot in Mummy & Daddy’s room!
So for now there is little we can do.  We carry on as we are and I accept that until that little lady is in her own room and we’ve stopped breastfeeding, my nights will continue to be disturbed.
The sooner she has her own room the better!


  1. September 14, 2014 / 9:17 pm

    I feel your pain. Syd was 2 in June and is still in her cotbed in our bedroom. Our plan was for her to share with Sam but his autism and behaviour / sleep issues mean we can't do that yet. Our house layout means the only way we could give her a room of her own is if she was on the ground floor (our bedroom is on the 2nd floor, so obviously that's a non starter). For now… We have to share. Hope your extension is built soon & that it makes your nights easier 🙂

    • September 14, 2014 / 9:21 pm

      Oh gosh you poor thing! You must have all the problems we have but ten fold! I hope you come up with a magic solution soon. At least I know the extension will be done sooner rather than later! x x x

  2. September 14, 2014 / 9:39 pm

    We moved A at 6 months and T at 5 months – with T I just couldn't wait any longer for al the reasons you say – we disturbed him, he disturbed us and I just wanted to be able to put a side light on when I was getting ready for bed! I feel your pain, it cannot be easy! x

  3. September 15, 2014 / 10:05 pm

    Thanks for sharing … difficult decision. I can't bear the thought of moving my little one out at the moment; i suppose one gets more realistic as they grow and with more children.

    All the best with your extension 🙂

  4. September 16, 2014 / 4:50 am

    We have our 10 month old in with us it has been fine except the 5am wake up for the day!

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