Ten Years On . . .

Today marks the ten year anniversary of what turned out to be something of a life changing decision.  A decision which, at the time, I was advised against.  My family and friends, with my best interests at heart thought I was making a big mistake.  And I wasn’t sure that they were wrong. 

Ten years ago today I drove to Preston to see my ex boyfriend.  We had been split up for 16 months.  For the majority of that time we didn’t see each other at all, exchanged nothing more than the occasional phone call or text but I was struggling to get over him.  (Anyone who knows me well will tell you this is something of an understatement)  After a chance meeting in a nightclub we started to talk again, to spend time with each other.  This went on for a good few weeks but much as I was loving having him back in my life I knew it wasn’t going to go anywhere and all I was doing was hurting myself.  That day I drove to Preston with the intention of telling him that I couldn’t do it any more.  That I didn’t want to see him again and that we wouldn’t be able to stay friends as it was stopping me from moving on.  Before I had chance to say any of that though he told me he wanted to give things another go.  

Ten years later?  He’s my husband, he’s father to my three beautiful children and he’s the best decision I ever made. 

I came across this quote from a book just the other week and it says it all: 

I fell in love with him.  But I don’t just stay with him by default as if there’s no one else available to me.  I stay with him because I choose to, every day that I wake up, every day that we fight or lie to each other or disappoint each other.  I choose him over and over again, and he chooses me.

Allegiant (Divergent Book 3)



  1. July 27, 2015 / 11:41 pm

    I ahhh that's so sweet such a lovely thing to happen even against all doubts it's pleasing to hear how far uve both come from the moment u started ur journey up to Preston to now.

  2. Pippa Ainsworth
    July 28, 2015 / 12:07 pm

    Ahhh, you two are so sweet! It's amazing how life can twist on a certain decision. What an amazing ten years you've had!

  3. July 28, 2015 / 11:53 am

    Wow. That's the nicest thing I've ever read about myself! Thank you sweetheart. For saying yes and giving us another go all those years ago and for every day since. It's been hard but it's worth every trial and tribulation to be able to give you a cuddle at the end of each day. I can't tell you how much I love that quote. It resonates with me. I love you Sausage. x

  4. July 28, 2015 / 9:27 pm

    Oh I love your story and I am so glad that you didn't get over him and move on. Love that bottom left photo of you and him – you look fierce – in a good way! x

  5. Tas D
    July 29, 2015 / 10:21 am

    Sometimes a good break is the most perfect thing ever to make things even better. Lovely post, and Happy anniversary. May you have many many more brilliant decades together x

    • July 29, 2015 / 10:26 am

      I think you're right – not sure we'd have lasted if we'd stayed together in the first place but the time apart did us the world of good x

  6. August 4, 2015 / 9:09 pm

    What a gorgeous, gorgeous story!!! Gorgeous photos of you guys through the years too! x Thanks so much for linking up with #MMWBH

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