I don’t “do” resolutions. I hate them. I always feel like it’s just setting yourself up to fail and if I’m honest, at cracking on for 38 I’m fairly happy with the person I am without resolving to make major changes come the 1st of January. I wrote a couple of years ago about the fact that January actually isn’t really the best time for making changes and resolutions however I still think that the new year does have a tendency to bring with it thoughts of looking forward, of making plans and of setting goals.
Emma tagged me in her post 18 things for 2018 and whilst I hadn’t really been planning on setting out 18 goals for the year, nor had I really been planning to write any down – I appreciate the kick up the bum it has given me to set my stall out and be accountable for the goals in my head rather than just thinking about them, meaning to do them and then carrying on as normal.
So here’s my 18 for ’18 . . .
1. Keep the kitchen side clear – this might seem like a bit of a strange goal but we have a section of work surface in the kitchen which is basically a dumping ground. Anything that comes through the door which is not immediately dealt with – shopping, parcels, letters from school, handbags – ends up chucked on the side and there it stays. The problem with this is that it’s not a hidden space, it’s obvious and in your face and makes everywhere look a mess. I feel so much better when it’s clean and tidy but for some reason I struggle to keep on top of it. So this year, I’m going to make a conscious effort to clear it down before I go to bed each night and not let the pile of stuff build up.
2. Not be a fat bridesmaid – My best friend gets married in May and I’m super excited to be Matron of Honour (though we’ve renamed it MOH as Matron sounds so flipping old). I’m not putting numbers on this goal – I have weight to lose for my health and for my own self-confidence so I’m using the wedding as a big old carrot to keep me me on track over the coming months. I want to enjoy the day, not be worrying about how I look and I certainly don’t want to be cringing at photos of myself afterwards.
3. Find more time to write for the sake of it – when blogging is your full time job, it’s easy to get caught up in collaborations and commitments – and whilst I love working with brands and the opportunities that arise from my blog – I’m aware that last year I found it hard to write just for the sake of writing and sharing our story, which at the end of the day is why I started blogging in the first place. So the plan is to make more time to write just because I want to.
4. Finish off half written posts in drafts – and linked to finding more time to write for the sake of it, I need to stop writing half a post and leaving it in drafts never to be seen again. I have an idea, start writing and then get distracted or run out of time – then by the time I get back to it it’s either no longer relevant or I’m just not inspired to finish it. I love the posts which I just write as the idea comes and press publish, no messing.
5. Add more colour to my wardrobe – I finally started to feel like I was making some headway on this longstanding goal with the addition of the orange cardigan. I’ve since bought a long red cardigan, a bright red woolly hat and my sister bought me a beautiful bright blue poncho for Christmas and teal scarf. For now the basics of my wardrobe will remain black, but I’m working hard to bring more colour into it!
6. Get rid of the manky fireplace and finally redecorate the living room – We’ve been in our house for 9.5yrs and I’ve hated our dated old fireplace forever. Our living room has seen plenty of change in that 9.5yrs, we had it re-plastered when it was opened up into the kitchen extension and we added a new, larger window. Since then that window has been removed and that wall opened up into the playroom as part a large two storey extension. But the fireplace remains. It wasn’t until last January that we finally decided what we were going to do with it but through a combination of a lack of time or money needing to be spent on other things, we’ve not actually been able to get the job done. It will be done this year. And sooner rather later.
7. Go to bed at a sensible time and not just mess about on my phone when I get there – in theory I’d like to leave my phone downstairs but I still rely on it for the alarm, to be able to read books through the kindle app and to be able to stream the radio to our Panasonic speakers so realistically I’m not going to be leaving it downstairs anytime soon, but I will be trying hard to stop scrolling instagram when I should be asleep!
8. Stop wasting time on people who don’t have time for me – this is a blog post in itself, and is in fact half written in my drafts, but I think it speaks for itself really.
9. Make time to exercise – When Ben was a baby I used to get up, give him his breakfast, pop him in his pram and walk Thomas until Ben woke up again – every single day. As I result I’d lost all my baby weight within 6 months. It was much harder with the girls as I couldn’t walk so far with a toddler as well. This is no longer an excuse. For five mornings a week, Amy is at school and whilst that is my time to work, I do need to also make time to exercise – to take a longer walk home from school in the morning or to have a go at a workout at home.
10. Make more videos – I love filming our days out and adventures and I had managed to get into a routine of uploading to youtube once a week but I’ve fallen out of the habit now and tend to just upload when I feel like it. I’d like to try and get that focus back and try to stick to an upload schedule so that you guys know when to expect new content!
11. Achieve a combined social following of 50k – last year I set individual targets, some of which I missed by a country mile, some I with months to spare. This time I’m focusing on overall growth and would love to gain a further 6.5k followers on social media taking me to 50k
12. Find a way to deal with PMT and cramps – Over the last year the PMT and period cramps have really ramped up and I’m not prepared to tolerate it any longer. I’m going to phone the GP next week to try and get things sorted – I think I’m going to try the contraceptive injection and see how that goes.
13. To put my phone down more – As a blogger, being on my phone and social media a lot kinda comes with the territory but it can also be a massive waste of time and a huge distraction from actually being present. A while back I removed all my social media apps from my phone which made a big difference but I found it was than really hard to keep up with work things while I was out and about doing reviews etc so I added them back but with the notifications turned off which does help. I would like to be able to just turn my phone off but that would drive Dave crackers – he hates not being able to get hold of me. It also doesn’t work when I’m working on supply as I need to be contactable if I want to get work booked in!
14. Drink more – Anyone who knows me well will know I’m basically a camel. I don’t drink tea or coffee and rarely drink squash or water either. I live on diet pop and the odd hot chocolate. That sounds dreadful written down and I think we all know it’s not very good for me – so I will be aiming to drink more water during 2018!
15. Get a new car – Our current car has been nothing but a pain in the backside, a constant source of stress and a significant drain on our finances. We had hoped to get a new car at the back end of last year but as is often the case, we had to spend the money elsewhere. I’m hopeful that by the end of this year we’ll have got a new car!
16. Explore and travel more – We already have a holiday booked for May half term and are super excited to be going to France. I’m hoping that in 2018 we can make more of our new found camping skills and explore more of the UK too.
17. See more live music – I’ve often said that live music is the thing I miss most about my pre-parent days. We’re taking Ben to his first gig in the spring which is super exciting but I definitely want to try and go to more gigs with Dave again this year – perhaps even a festival.
18. Read more! – Before I had kids I used to devour at least a book a week. Now I hardly read at all. Towards the end of last year I started to make use of the kindle app on my phone and have been reading again. By far my favourite read of last year was Wonder which I now really need to watch too!
So there we go – 18 goals for 2018 – some predictable, some more random ones but really my main goal for the year is to remain healthy and happy. Have you set any goals or resolutions for the year?